A Is For Autism B Is For Blessed.

Hola Fashionistas!

Today I’m sharing with you all, a reality in our every day lives. ❤️

To the mother who did not correct her son at school today, when he referred to my Sebastian as crazy, and instead of apologizing to my daughter, she turned her back to her, and told her son to pay attention to what HE was doing, and not Sebastian.

You’re the problem with today’s acceptance of different.  Instead of correcting your son and taking advantage of this teaching moment, you brushed it away, as if it was ok.

Let me tell you a bit about my Sebastian.  He’s a bright, caring, highly intelligent little 4 year old boy, who happens to be on the Autism spectrum.  He can read, add, subtract, multiply, build incredible lego structures and tell time on an analog clock.

When your son referred to him as crazy, Sebastian had no idea what it meant.  We’re glad that he was probably “busy” observing something else, and did not hear it.  Because right now, he’s at the stage where he will ask what a word he’s never heard means.

You see, even though Sebastian is excelling in some areas, we are still working very, very hard in others.

It’s been a very long two years with different therapies, lots of work at home from both my daughter and her husband, seven days a week.

Sebastian works very hard at what comes naturally to so many other children. Understanding emotions, controlling his body, interacting with other children, etc.  Every emotion that he expresses today, has been taught to him.

Watching Sebastian struggle in putting together a sentence, to simply tell us he is not feeling well, or just express himself is heart breaking.

I remember one time I was visiting.  Sebastian was about 2 years old.  It was bedtime, and we were struggling to get him to sleep.  He was screaming uncontrollably, and we had no idea how to help him or what was wrong.  I quietly walked out of his room, leaving my daughter and her husband with him, and I sat on the steps to cry, and pray.  It was devastating listening to him babbling and repeatedly screaming his ABC’s, trying to tell us what was wrong, but he didn’t know the words.

This is just one of so many crying moments.

Every day is a learning one for my Sebastian, and even though we have so much to accomplish, we celebrate each, and every single moment.  God has been great, and even though we’re not where we want to be, we praise and glorify God, that we’re not where we used to be.

So you see, Sebastian is not “crazy.”   He’s a remarkable little boy, who is different, and that is okay. -Nana

Blessings,

@fashionistaover40

Dad, Mom and my Sebastian

Instagram – @AisforAutismBisforBlessed

16 Responses to “A Is For Autism B Is For Blessed.”

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  1. Caryl says:

    Beautifully written. My heart was aching for you all as I read what happened. He is a precious boy. May GODs blessing continue to surround you and your family.
    Thank you for sharing

  2. Michelle Smith says:

    This made me cry. It’s so important as parents to understand that our children look at us to help guide them through the world. I will teach our children that Sebastian and that their cousin are unique and that makes them special.

    • Fashionistaover40 says:

      Thank you so very much for your kind words. It means the world to us. We have to begin teaching acceptance. 💙🧩 Much love and many blessings to you.

  3. Andi says:

    So sorry you had to encounte such an experience . As a teacher of students that are on the spectrum I can imagine how you felt. Everything you said is correct . A missed teaching opportunity, after all, its that teaching of compassion, kindness, acceptance and respect parents/caregivers teach and model at home.

    Just keep doing what you (and your family) are doing! Your little Sebastian seems to be a that kind, curious puzzle/problem solver, mathematician which is exactly the type of person we need in our world.

    • Fashionistaover40 says:

      Thank you so much for your inspiring words, and most importantly, THANK YOU, for what you do. Sebastian is an amazing boy and has taught us so much. Much love and many blessings to you. 💙🧩

  4. Lynda Steaple says:

    Thank you for sharing. What an awesome nana little Sebastian has! I’m adding him to my prayers, that he will conquer the areas where there is struggle and that his life will be a witness to everyone around him and like his beautiful nana, inspires others!! 🙏🏾❤️

    • Fashionistaover40 says:

      Amen and Amen! I believe in the power of prayers, and everyday God has shown his grace and mercy for us. Thank you. Many blessings to you. ❤️❤️

  5. Lisa Noel says:

    I was indeed touched by your story. Thank you for allowing me/us in to your family’s personal life… and bringing awareness of Autism and the challenges you face in educating others. Children that have been diagnosed as such are normally extremely clever and gifted children. You’re grandson Sebastian looks like a beautiful, gifted, little boy. And is a blessing and he is indeed blessed to have a powerful praying grandma. God bless you all 🥰🙏🏾

    • Fashionistaover40 says:

      Thank you so very much. Sebastian is an amazing little boy and I know will accomplish so much. I just hope to spread the message of awareness, if just to a few. Thank you and many blessings. ❤️❤️

  6. Crystal Johnson says:

    Beautiful words. He’s a very handsome little guy and is blessed to have a loving family to help him every step of his life one day at a time. God bless you all.

  7. Yulisa says:

    I couldn’t hold back tears reading this today. I find it so hard to comprehend why a parent will not correct their child when they have expressed themselves in a particular manner towards another human being. I am so sorry Sebastian and you had to experience such an awful moment. We have to teach our children that everyone is different in their own special way and the fact that everyone is different is what makes this world more amazing. It would of been such an awesome moment to teach the child the importance of caring for others and using kind words to express yourself. He is such a handsome little boy and I pray God continues to enlighten him.

    Stay blessed!

    • Fashionistaover40 says:

      Amen!! Thank you soooo very much for your beautiful message. ❤️ If only, yes. I don’t understand it either. It would have been an incredible teaching moment for that little boy. Instead she chose to just ignore the situation. Sebastian is a bright light in our lives and has taught us all, so many valuable lessons. Tolerance, acceptance, kindness, patience and mostly Faith. Many blessings to you. Evelyn

  8. Cynthia A. Wilson says:

    Well said Bella! We are all different and differently. Sebastian is loved and has an awesome support system. Nana you keep praying. God answeres our prayers!
    Be joyful in our hope, patient in our affliction and faithful in our prayers.

    • Fashionistaover40 says:

      Thank you so very much for your encouraging words. Even on tough days, I remind myself to stay focused on His Word and promises. Every day we see His miracles. Thank you. ❤️❤️